How to lose your Ex in 10 days?

You saw it right..my topic is about “How to lose your Ex in 10 Days”.

It may sound redundant and absurd because how can you lose someone who is already considered your Ex?

Earlier I was talking to a friend over Yahoo. The conversation is like this (I just translated in English)

Friend: I hate myself.
Kikomatching: (In jest) If you hate yourself, there will be no one to love you so please love yourself first.
Friend: I want to be happy again.
Kikomatching: Why, aren’t you happy nowadays?
Friend: No..especially whenever I see my ex.
Kikomatching: Where?
Friend: In Facebook
Kikomatching: So why are you still checking his profile if it pains you? Are you an addict?
Friend: I know..That’s why I’m hating myself for it.
Kikomatching: Well, you really must hate yourself then. Lol.
Kikomatching: Better read my blog than view his profile. It’s more entertaining than him. Lol.
Friend: I want to distance myself from him.
Kikomatching: So why don’t you do it?
Friend: So should I block him?
Kikomatching: Of course! Why not? If you’ll just hate yourself more..Then why should you swallow a bitter pill?
Kikomatching: Look at me. I’m inhibiting myself. And now our lives are peaceful.
Friend: Ohh..Ok.
Kikomatching: You’re actually giving me a good blog topic: “How to lose your ex in 10 days”. Lol.
Friend: Ha ha ha! Can you make it 6 years?
Kikomatching: Why 6 years if you can do it in 10 days?
Friend: Ok fine! (Silent for a while). I blocked him now!
Kikomatching: Congratulations!

It seem I may not show empathy to my friend’s misery but I believe each couple who has recently broken up will go through this stage anyway. But the thing is, my friend and her ex has broken up for quite sometime and she doesn’t seem to accept moving on. For now at least.

So really, how could we lose our Ex in 10 days if it is actually possible?

It always feels painful after a break up because by coming out of a relationship, we are losing not only a partner but the memories and dreams that goes along with it.

Many people try different ways to move on.

Some eat or drink out of depression. Some have a new hairstyle or hair color. Others shop or travel until their cards are maxed out. However, all of these are just temporarily relief from the grief.

So what are the expert’s advise in dealing with this situation?

1.) Give yourself a break- allow yourself to “heal”. Don’t force yourself into too much work just to forget your misery. It’s alright to perform less than your optimal level for a certain period of time. If you push yourself to the limit, it will give you more stress.

2.) See the light at the end of the tunnel- Your goal is to move forward. Don’t over analyze the situation and keep the anger, bitterness and resentment. Life is good with or without your ex. Dwelling on the past will make you stuck and can’t even do small steps to recovery. Always see the positive side of the situation.

3.) Spend time with people who uplift your spirits and value you as a person-This could be your family, well-meaning friends or a professional counselor. It is important for you to be surrounded by people who gives you positivity.

4.) There are still happy endings in this world- It may sound too surreal but surely there are great relationships which are similar to “And they live happily ever after”. It may not be happening this time, but it will come.

5.) Go out and try to build new friendship (and eventually relationship)- If your last relationship went sour, it doesn’t mean all relationships are doomed. If you feel you have lost your friends or social activities before, it’s time to catch up or build a new network. Do activities that interests you. Who knows, your better half may just be around the corner.

It’s no guarantee that you will lose your Ex in 10 days following the tips above. But if you have the drive, surely you’ll go a long mile.

To my friend (she who-must-not-be-named here), I hope you read this post and take my piece of advice.. Good luck.

8 thoughts on “How to lose your Ex in 10 days?

  1. to your friend who must not be named: eto lang masasabi ko:

    1) its all in the mind. if you say you can’t then you CAN”T
    2) delete your facebook account and start blogging.
    3) be constantly in touch with people like kiko. you’ll thank him someday, believe me.

    1. Thanks for your comment and tips sub. She is not into blogging so i’m not sure if it will be a good advice. And yes, she is constantly in touch with me so I guess that’s good enough to keep her sanity. lol.

  2. it really takes a while to heal and totally move on. some take days, some take months or even years. it all depends on how you want to go on with your life. it’s your choice. you want it quick or you want it painfully slow. your choice.

    but we have to remember your world does not only revolve on one person. that when this person turns his/her back on you, the whole world also hates you. most of the time, when you are healing, you realize, it’s just one person, just one corner of your world that was lost or shattered. then eventually you’ll realize the world is a bigger place and there is more to it than you initially know of. it takes a while. and it is the time when you need your friends, your family, the other parts of your world to help you heal and move on. i’ve been there many times. it’s a cycle. that’s the painful risk when you love. there is risk of hurting and losing over and over.

    ask your friend to write down her feelings. it helps a lot. i started my blog because i was depressed over a long distance relationship that didn’t eventually work out. and i found friends (like you) who really helped me get up again by simply making me feel i’m ok and that i’m good in my own ways.

    uu wag na nya tingnan yung profile. basahin na lang nya kamo mga blogs natin (hehe) until she feels much better about herself again. there is much more to life than feeling sad and sorry.

    1. very well said Ms. GBP. It shows your maturity in handling hard situations including a break-up. Yup, for some people it seems the end of the world when someone break their heart but if they only see the bigger picture, oftentimes it happens because God wants them to be in a better position. Life is a learning process. We cannot prepare much. Anything can happen we just have to know how to control the situation (or our emotions for that matter).

      Good day to you!

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